Try to find 10 mins to walk together alone (no kids or pets). One person will be the thinker, the other the curious. By default the female is thinker on even days, and the male on odd days. The thinker raises a topic. The curious asks questions to understand what the thinker thinks about that topic as accurately as possible - ie why, how, who, when, what. They don’t need to agree with anything, and should not try to solve anything. By the end of the walk, the curious should summarise what the thinker thinks about the topic and they agree they got it accurate.