repair attempt

Any statement or action — silly or otherwise — that prevents negativity from escalating out of control - ie referring to an inside joke when there is a lull in your argument, or reaching out to say “can we start afresh?” 


Repair attempts are a way of reaching out and indicating even though you are at odds, you still care for them.


Coined by the Gottmans

https://www.gottman.com/blog/r-is-for-repair


keywords - fighting, apologies,